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Sexual Repression, Violence, & Pedophilia
Copyright © by Dan Schneider, 1/4/04
Britney
Spears has recently been everywhere. This nubile, but talent-challenged, lip-syncher-
er, singer (& ex-New Mouseketeer), has made more headlines for a lesbo
lip-lock with Madonna, her show of more & more skin on every succeeding
magazine cover, & her long list of male companions, than any actual show of
talent. Apparently, she is the heir to Julia Roberts’, Princess Diana’s,
Jackie Kennedy’s, & Marilyn Monroe’s claims to top pop female icon of
the world. According to the media there is no breathing human male that would
not leap at the chance to copulate with her. I demur. Don’t get me wrong- were
I 15 or 20 years younger I would agree, but she simply does nothing for me. Does
she have a nice, tight, sexy body? Yeah, but I say that with my head- not my
groin. The woman (girl?) is only 21. She still has baby fat. I simply cannot see
her as a potential sex partner- even were I single & she not rich &
famous. Part of it has to do with her being an archetypal vapid blond, but even
were she very smart I would be hard-pressed to find her ‘sexy’. Again, this
is my mind, not groin, speaking.
If a fairy
came to me (& I were single) & said that any nubile 21 year old female
desired copulation with me, I would not demur, but the real question is- would I
seek it? No. & that’s the point. As I’ve aged I’ve
noticed an interesting phenomenon- those younger than me (an increasing %)- seem
more & more child-like. In my 20s I saw how high schoolers started to look
like what I thought elementary schoolers had looked like. Then, as I hit my 30s
I started to notice that even college aged babes looked juvenile. It took an
extra effort to even see them as desirable. I found my range of desirable mates
was from 4-5 years older to 10-12 years younger- & even the outer edges of
both were extremes, with 4-5 years younger being the average age of women I
dated. Again, I could intellectually think that 21 year old is attractive, but
it would not be the instantaneous ‘yeowzah’ I had when younger. &
despite the media’s attempt to portray human sexuality to the contrary, most
men are more like me. In fact, the idea that most Americans are sexually
vigorous is a myth. People will point to the proliferation of online porno sites
& the porno biz’s successes over the years- but as someone with a bit more
detailed knowledge of that area of life (& years of working in a magazine
distributorship which sold alot of porno) I can state unequivocally that it is a
very small percentage of Americans (mostly male, with a large % of that being
gay) who indulge in porno. It’s just that that small portion is so voluminous
in its consumption that it skews the #s. Go to any major city & find a sex
shop & you will see that every month it is the same small % of sex addicts
that get every new copy of every skin mag, & rent every porno tape over
& over. The 10-12 million porno mags that sold monthly before the advent of
the Internet were really just the same 1-2 million lonely perverts who would buy
magazines over & over. & I use the term pervert merely as a descriptor,
not judgmentally.
In short, as
many studies of the last few years have asserted, most Americans’ sex lives
are as dull as the rest of their lives. Yes, there is adultery- but that’s
usually a product of that very boredom, or poor choices made in mating years
earlier. Most folk do the missionary, 2 or 3 times a week- at least long term
couples. The idea that all- or most- 50 year old men desire Britney Spears is
ludicrous. Are there a few sick old fucks who do, & a smaller # who attempt
to do so? Of course. But the idea that the Internet has unleashed a tidal wave
of sexual desire is just right wing garbage. Were I 16 or 17 I’d wanna boff
Hillary Duff, but at 38 I fantasize of Catherine Zeta-Jones, Gwyneth Paltrow, or
Minnie Driver- in those increasingly rarer # of times I fantasize at all.
It’s only
because society so ridiculously tries to repress sexuality when it rages in our
youth that morons think, like a toothpaste tube, it’s bound to squirt out of
us as we near retirement. But, most people pay no heed to others’ attempts to
squelch their youthful sex drives, so by the time most of us are 30 we have had
our share of the mating game & just want a little routine- for him Monday
Night Football, for her office gossip. Are these stereotypes? Yes. But also true
for the vast majority of middle-aged folks. Sorry, Bill Bennett- but all your
worry is for naught. Yes, there are abusive priests- but is this just not more
proof of the futility of sexual repression? Yes, every so often you hear of a
Pete Townshend or R. Kelly (musicians) getting in trouble with online porno or
underage girls, but for every 1 of them there are 99 guys & 199 women whose
sex lives would bore an accountant.
I’m a
libertarian. My approach is simple- legalize everything, as long as no 1 is
hurt. This includes drugs, prostitution, porno, etc. Even child porno (which now
comes in a child-free type) is basically harmless. Most of the ‘children’
are shaved mid-teenagers, not 5 year olds. If it’s silly to have statutory
rape laws that punish a 19 year old guy from boinking his 16 year old
sweetheart, it’s just as silly to outlaw child porno on the myth that it’s a
gateway activity for possible rape & molestation. The #s, borne out over
decades, simply do not support that. Why? Because it’s never been studied. But
common sense dictates that like adult porno, child porno is not a threat to
society at large. Yes, go after those extreme cases where violence HAS been
proved to have been inflicted on the very young, but save the taxpayer $ when it
comes to 15 or 16 year old runaways who need to make a quick buck. If society is
so concerned then do something about their problems BEFORE they get in the biz.
Of course, that might mean taking a deeper, less materialistic approach to life
& lives- & that’s more Un-American than Communism! Still the
gateway nonsense mirrors the myths spread about marijuana & alcohol leading
to harder drug usage- also propagated without any backup data. The truth is that
potheads rarely become crackheads. & don’t get me started on the nonsense
about porno propagated by Ted Bundy when he finally fried. It’s amazing how
much credence was given to this known killer & liar only because 1 of his
last manipulations struck a chord with reactionary sexual buffoons.
I say, let
the lonely old perverts have their porno. Yes, slam them down hard if they do
step out & commit real abuse in the world- but only then. The vast majority
will be plenty satisfied coming over their mousepads- & is that so terrible?
Priests, especially, should have free access to all the porno they want- kiddy
or scat, whatever. It’s a small price to pay in lieu of lawsuits. Of course,
dropping the celibacy nonsense would be best.
But what of that most dastardly spawn of sexual repression-
the serial killer? Yes, there are killers like the Zodiac & the DC Snipers
who seemed to have killed for political or power hunger reasons, but most serial
killers do so not because they indulged in sex & porno, but were brutally
shunted away from their own healthy sexuality in childhood, or loners who could
not get laid if their lives depended on it. The list is endless: Ted Bundy, the
Hillside Stranglers- Angelo Buono & Kenneth Bianchi, Henry Lee Lucas, Albert
De Salvo, Gary Ridgeway, John Wayne Gacy, Jeffrey Dahmer, & Ed Gein, are the
most famous among a multitude of others familiar to even people with no interest
in serial killers or true crime.
Yet, in parts
of the world where sexual expression is encouraged- say the chilly climes of
Scandinavia, or the tropic zones of the Pacific, sexual violence has always been
less- from serial killing to rape to forced incest, by all methods of accounting
for such things. & pornography is BIG in Scandinavia! In Polynesia Western
explorers were stunned by how often & early pubescents engaged in sex with
multiple partners, as well as members of their extended families (by definition
‘incest’- but not really!). This is not just Margaret Mead fantasy time. So
what else could account for the fact that America, still bizarrely fascinated by
Puritanism, is haven to such a range of violence driven by apparently sexual
causes? It would seem repression is the logical answer.
Serial killers often need ‘cooling off’ periods between victims so
they can live & relive the ‘high’ of sexual sadism- apparently because
it’s the 1 time they feel fulfilled. This cooling off pattern is known to be a
staple of other forms of repression- be it the shy, put upon dweeb who explodes,
then introverts more deeply into his shell, or the would-be artist who is
denied, then blazes forth with an unbridled streak of creative excellence, only
to go through another period of dormancy. But serial killers are not the only
manifestation of pent-up sexual rage. The 1966 1 night rampage of spree killer
Richard Speck, who killed 8 female nursing students, also was caused by a
childhood of sexual repression. He was only the 1st & most famous
such killer. The Columbine killings of a few years ago, where 2 outcast &
sexually repressed ‘nerds’ went on a rampage is another example, despite
efforts to deny the sexually repressive aspects of their crime in favor of more
‘politicized’ versions. Yet all sexually repressed killers display such
known behavior patterns as: ritualism, compulsiveness, deceit, histories of
serious & escalating violence from inanimate objects to animals to humans,
deviant sexualities- including hypersexual fantasies, claimed sexual abuse,
& a history of substance abuse.
Note, that all these traits are also rife in pedophiles at large, &
those priests who have been caught abusing children. The phrase ‘Celibacy
is the greatest perversion.’ has been attributed to many, but it is
nonetheless true. While none of these traits can conclusively point to a
possible serial or spree murderer or a pedophile in training, would it not be in
the best interests of ‘public safety’ to minimize those things which are
direct causes for these traits? Namely the myriad forms of sexual repression. I
advocate detailed sexual education from Kindergarten on. This way, by the time
kids are able to use all they’ve learned it’ll be just another ho-hum
activity. Girls won’t be ostracized for being sluts, & wallflower girls
& geeky guys will also get some action, shortcircuiting possible lives of
delusion & fantasy, & preventing the needs for later indulgences in sex
industries. In short, to prevent prostitution encourage safe & responsible
sex in girls & boys who desire it from as early an age as possible. This would also cut
down drastically on the spread of VDs, AIDS, & unwanted teenage pregnancies.
Not to mention preventing the creation of a stew ripe for the breeding of
sadistic monsters bent on making the world pay for their lack of fucking Suzy
Rottentwat when they were 15. After all, it’s only human to desire what you do
not have. A lack of sex, or even the access to peripherally sexual things like
porno naturally lead to the development of fantasies & a disconnect from
reality. The more pronounced the censure the more likely the development of
outrageous fetishes, obsessions, & violent reactions at failing to attain
these successive levels of sexual desire.
The old canard is about the boy being the father of the man.
I’d phrase Schneider’s Corollary as ‘Show me a boy
encouraged to look at porno & get laid as young as possible, & I’ll
show you a middle-aged man content with his remote control & sex twice a
month.’ When 1 realizes that even WITH all the sexual repression that
goes around in our infantilized nation most middle-aged American men ARE
perfectly content with their remotes & twice monthly sex ration, it bears
quite a testament to the hohumness of most human sexual drives! & that
includes most American men over 30 not fingerdancing down their pants over
Britney Spears’ latest fleshly gyrations!
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